It is necessary to lost ones existence in Habeebullah, Saiyidul Mu’rsaleen, Imaamul Mu’rsaleen, Huzur Pak Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam and Shai’kh or Murshid Qibla to establish deep relation (তায়াল্লুক ও নিসবত) with them. One will not reach in fulfillment until he lost his existence (in them). So, one should have abandon his personality, interest, existence, impact, influences in Shai’kh or Murshid Qibla. Shai’kh or Murshid Qibla is choice is his choice. His wish and desire will be same. Only then it is expected to get success.
Afdwalul Awliyaa, Imaamur Rwabbaanee, Qaiyuumul Auwal, Mujaddidu Alfe ‘Saanee Rwa’hmatullaahi ‘Alaihi, he stated that as much Fana (lost) that much Baaka(establishment ). He stated farther that Fana of Qalb and Fana of Nafs are the first step of this path. Qalb free from all kinds of Gairullah is called Fana of Qalb and Nafs free from all kinds bad habits is called Fana of Nafs. He stated also that Fana and Baaka are called also as Bilayat. It can be either general or special. Bilayat-e-Aam means that general contiguity. Bilayat-e-Khas means that contiguity with Saiyidul Mu’rsaleen, Imaamul Mu’rsaleen, Khwaatamun Nabiyyeen, Habeebullah, Huzur Pak Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam. Fully lost (Fana) and establishment (Baaka) are in this Bilayat. The person who got this supreme Niamat, his Shohre Sudur or Qalb has been broaden and Nafs has been calm for Ibadat, Zikir, Riajwat, Mushakkat. So he is satisfied to His Rob ALLAH Pak and ALLAH Pak also satisfied to him. (Maktubat Shareef-1/214)
He also said that it is the duty for all to keep them free from attraction of others other than ALLAH Pak. It is necessary to keep free such a way that no other thinking of others can enter into the Qalb. If one got thousand years of life even so thinking of others should not be entered into the mind. As his Qalb has forgot about others except ALLAH Pak. This is the main task, except this all others are meaningless. (Maktubat Shareef-1/161)
Untill patient get release from ailment, no other food (except those food which are required to get release from ailment) are useful upto then. Rather those make illness bigger. So, for him first thing will be to get release from illness. Then nutritious food can be taken in turns, so that he can gradually attain his normal strength. In the same way, when Qalb of people is suffering for illness then no Ibadat turns to worthwhile rather sometimes it is harmful. Saiyidul Mu’rsaleen, Imaamul Mu’rsaleen, Khwaatamun Nabiyyeen, Habeebullah, Huzur Pak Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam stated that-
“There are many fasting people who can’t get anything other than hunger and thirst from their fast. And there are many people who make themselves to keep awake by night but achieve nothing other than sufferings of night awakening.
Masha’ikh Ijam Rwahmatullhi Alahi also gave instruction to release of illness. Attraction to anything except ALLAH Pak means attraction at himself. Because, if anybody desires something that is for his own. He loves his children that are also for himself. In the same way, his interest to money-property, authority and honour is also for that. So, in fact desires of his Nafs is like his Ma’bud. Untill he won’t get free from these love; it is hard to get success upto then. (Maktubat Shareef-1/186)
Explanation of these above statements are if family, children, goods & property, asset, money & honor all these things are to achieve gairullah (the things which are not for the direction to ALLAH Pak) will be cause of failure and if all those things are to follow Noor-e-Mujassam, Habeebullah, Huzur Pak Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam means to get satisfaction of ALLAH Pak and Noor-e-Mujassam, Habeebullah, Huzur Pak Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam will be cause of great success.